What Star Sign Are You?
How to trust your intuition and set boundaries.
Every time I tell someone I’m a scorpio, they roll their eyes and say “I knew it.”
That of course only happens, dear reader, if I’m talking to someone who also pays attention to and or is interested in astrology.
The reality is that I tend to wait a while before I start talking star signs with the opposite sex, because 9 out of 10 times I get a wide eyed look that says “this bitch must really be crazy if she reads her horoscope”.
“Trust Your Gut”
I read my horoscope because I’m curious by nature. I like to be prepared, find things out and get to the bottom of the issue.
And more recently, I like to try and better understand myself. My thoughts, feelings, flaws - surely they must come from somwhere. So why not look to the stars?
Whilst men do typically like to tell me they “don’t know about that stuff” when I ask them what their sun sign is, I also have plenty of female friends who roll their eyes at me when I talk about this stuff too.
They sigh deeply when I tell them it’s a new moon so that’s why I’ve been lazy and unresponsive for a week.
However, like with anything, I believe you shouldn’t knock it until you try it.
If you’ve never had a tarot reading, don’t know what your birth chart says, or simply don’t have a clue what astrology even is, then who are you to tell someone who does have all that knowledge that it’s wrong?
I used to be super skeptical of astrology, mediums and spirituality. Meditation was for “earthy” people, tarot readers were scam artists, and your astrological sign meant fuck all to do with who you are as a person or who your soulmate is.
Then I went to my first reading.
And my mind was totally opened to a new way of thinking, with a new found respect for my own intuition and thoughts.
Setting Boundaries & Reading The Room
From a very young age, I’ve been able to tell you on the first meeting if I’m going to like a person. Some call it judgemental, I now call it having a highly tuned intuition.
There’s always been a “feeling”, a thought I couldn’t quite explain when I met someone who immediately gave me a bad energy.
Negative, dangerous, untrustworthy - I seem to pick it up before other people, and consequently get called judgemental or cold when I let my nearest and dearest know I don’t want to spend time with that person nor trust them.
Sadly, near enough every experience of me saying “that’s a bad apple” and being told I’m wrong, has ended up in me eventually being proven right.
That doesn’t mean I walk around with a permanent boundary bubble, though. I let people in and out of my life who I know are no good for me.
Red flag? I’ll turn it pink until it gets serious enough to deal with properly.
Bad energy? I’ll ignore it until it physically shows itself in their actions or words.
I do indeed ignore my own intuition, for the sake of my feelings. That feeling, voice or thought - whatever it is - tells me this person is not right for me or good to be around.
But I nearly always give them the benefit of the doubt instead of acting on it.
My friends will tell you first hand how many times I’ve given second, third sometimes tenth chances to people who I know deep down just aren’t good for me.
The worst part is, I’m the only one who ends up getting hurt.
Learn When To Let Go
It wasn’t until about a year or so ago that I started to truly tap into and face the things within myself that needed addressing and working on.
Allowing myself to really analyse my traits, thought patterns and personality type made me realise I had a lot of work to do to better improve my mental wellbeing.
I finally started to listen to that intuition, I identified what I needed to change or what I didn’t like in how I treated myself and others, and I made a conscious effort to change.
I stopped caring what other people thought of me, and asked what I thought of myself instead.
I started off by asking the very basic things that my therapist first asked me when I was 17:
Do I think I am a good person?
Do I make good choices?
Why do I feel unworthy?
Why do I like to take broken people and make them better?*
*Analyse that last sentence as you wish - I’m not here to tell you right from wrong.
I won’t deep dive quite so far into that, but you get it. If you don’t ask the hard questions, then you won’t get the honest answers.
So people, please - stop watering yourself down to keep people around.
Don’t put up with shit behaviour - from yourself or others - that makes you feel bad for the sake of a momentary high.
Face the things within yourself that do not make you happy and do something about them.
We all have flaws, but it’s how we choose to deal with the ones that affect us and us alone that matter most.
Remember that any practise that makes you look inward, or helps you understand yourself and your needs better, is never a waste of time. It’s not selfish, it’s self care.
Next time you meet someone, listen to what your intuition says. Tap into that energy, that feeling, that tells you whether or not you feel good around them or if they bring out the best in you.
Because you never know what the universe will throw at you next.
Loved this one, Ria!
Loved this one, Ria!